Sarah Fuzi ‘17 – According to Merriam Webster Dictionary, a bully is a, “blustering browbeating person, especially one habitually cruel to others who are weaker.” The Free Dictionary states that a bully is, “a person who is habitually cruel or overbearing, especially to smaller or weaker people.” From the Cambridge English Dictionary, a bully is also, “a person who threatens to hurt someone, often forcing that person to do something.”
However, people perceive bullies in different ways, often never thinking that they could be a bully themselves. It is true though, that everyone can bully without pinching or punching or preaching and nagging. It is the poisonous game of silence, locked lips, and a limp tongue that is often the culprit.
According to www.bullyingstatistics.org, about 42% of kids have been bullied online with one in four being verbally attacked more than once. 35% have been threatened online, 58% have reported something mean about themselves online, and around 77% of students have admitted to being victim of one type of bullying or another.
Not all of the records show the children who are silent, those who will not speak out against bullying, and those who will not stop their own bully out of fear.
“Fear keeps us focused on the past or worried about the future. If we can acknowledge our fear, we can realize that right now we are okay.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
People can do anything to teach us right from wrong, showing us what bullying is and what it can do. Showcasing us that bullying is wrong and how not to bully, hosting games to improve communication and build trust. However, no matter the numbers of lessons, the countless speeches, and the consistent preaching could prepare us when bullying happens to us.
Only knowing how not to be a bully, but never knowing how to react as the victim.
Making things worst, is the silence and bitter loneliest one’s heart feels, their island of solitude. While without knowing, they are not alone, they are not the only one, and there is always help for them if only they reached out for it. The percent that hushes their pain and stuffs their suffering into a bottle, know that their are people willing to help you. Friends, family, teachers, and peers are there by your side, always there to help you. Break the chains that hold you back, take down the walls that shuts the world out, and open the door so your anguish can finally come to an end.
Speak, communicate, convey, and declare that their is something wrong. Express that their is something wrong, feel free to cry without shame. There is no shame in one’s suffering and fear, it is the action that makes oneself brave and stronger than before.